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How To Include Both Your Personalities On Your Wedding Day

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The best wedding celebrations are a perfect blend of both personalities. This allows all attendees to celebrate your love by acknowledging what makes you different and what makes you the same.

Same-sex couples, interracial couples and international couples often run into problems when it comes to planning a wedding. When the types of weddings that are considered to be “traditional” don’t match up with your goals, personalities and aspirations, it can start to feel like planning a wedding is going to be an uphill struggle.

The truth is, the traditional wedding template is there to be broken. There aren’t really any wedding rules. Your big day should always be a celebration of your love, so don’t worry if it doesn’t fit the template.

If you’re wondering how to include both of your personalities, traditions, religious views and unique cultures in your big day, try some of these top wedding planning tips.

Work with a wedding planner

One of the biggest perks of working with a wedding planner is that they are always bursting at the seams with ideas. You might only have a few vague ideas for what you would like to achieve, but they will run with this and create something magical and memorable.

Working with a wedding planner will help you to capture both of your personalities and make sure all traditions you’d like to observe are respectfully included in your big day. It can also help to take away some of the pressure of feeling like you need to host a “traditional” wedding.

Hire a celebrant

If you’re getting stressed about writing your wedding vows and personalising the wedding ceremony to you, then it’s time to hire a celebrant. Oaktree Ceremonies and Amanda's Beautiful Ceremonies can help you to plan your perfect ceremony that includes everything that is important to you both.

A celebrant spends some time getting to know both partners and learning about who you are as individuals and as a couple. They will then help you to design a ceremony that matches your unique personality. This is ideal for those who don’t want a traditional wedding or the typical vows.

Make a list of needs and wants

There might be some religious or cultural inclusions that are non-negotiable, while others are simply fun ideas that you’d quite like to include. Including absolutely everything you want in your big day might be a stretch, so be ready to make a few compromises.

If you approach vendors with a list of needs and wants, they’ll be able to help you to create something magical that is realistic and within your budget. For example, working with a decor provider like Fabricate Decor can help you to bring together your different tastes and styles.

Celebrate your differences

Another really popular trend is to split certain things down the middle to highlight the obvious contrasts between you. A great way to achieve this is with your wedding cake. Find a creative baker like Essence of Cake to create a stunning masterpiece that includes hints of both of your personalities.

For example, if one of you is bold and bright and the other likes dark and moody shades, you could split the design down the middle, or get creative with the tiers.

Take your time on the menu

Food and drink are some of the most expressive parts of your wedding day. This is often the part that leaves a lasting impression on your guests. Think carefully about how your wedding menu will represent both of your personalities.

So, if you love BBQ, serve BBQ. And if pizza makes your heart sing, make sure you include it in your big day.

Choosing the right menu is also an excellent way to bring different cultures into your wedding planning. Adventurous guests will love tasting new cuisine, so don’t be afraid to give them something they might never have tried before. A caterer like Black Jacket Events or Plenty Of Thyme can help you to get creative with your wedding menu.

Make your guests the focal point

Some couples just don’t want to be the centre of attention, and that’s fine too! If you’re feeling the pressure to make it all about you and your partner is getting too much, turn the attention on your guests. How do you do this exactly?

● Make the wedding playlist collaborative

● Invite your guests to take to the stage for karaoke

● Include a wedding photo booth like Smiles Better Entertainment in place of a wedding guest book

● Include some wedding games; check out some suggestions here: in our FREE DOWNLOAD.

Ready to start planning your dream wedding with a difference? We’re here to help in any way we can. From connecting you with LGBTQ-friendly suppliers that will support your dreams, to helping you to define your wedding aesthetic. Get in touch today to learn more.

For more advice and inspiration, to help make your wedding day a unique and memorable occasion, make sure you’re following the Infinite Wedding Co blog regularly. We share helpful insight and inspiration to help make planning your wedding a breeze.

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Debbie and Becca x

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