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How To Spot LGBTQ-Friendly Wedding Vendors For Your Big Day

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It’s 2021, so we shouldn’t really need to write this post, but here we are. Some wedding vendors can make things more difficult for same-sex couples to plan their big day. But planning a wedding means you have a lot of power – spending power!

So instead of getting angry at those who will make your life more difficult, we say it’s better to put your hard-earned cash into the pockets of those who will be just as excited about your wedding as you are. Championing inclusive wedding vendors is one of the best ways to balance the scales and support the businesses that support you.

If you’re looking for LGBTQ friendly wedding venues and vendors, we can help point you in the right direction.

Know Your Rights

First things first, remember that the law is on your side. Businesses can’t refuse to work with you because of your gender or sexual orientation. It’s discrimination.

However, planning your wedding should be a joyous occasion, so we appreciate the need to find wedding vendors who will support your big day. Also, why would you want to give money to those who aren’t respectful of all individuals? We’d much rather see respectful wedding vendors like Lottie Photography and Ross Willshire Photography, flourish!

Pay Close Attention To Language

Same-sex friendly wedding vendors know that it isn’t just about a bride and a groom. They talk about couples, brides, grooms, the sten party and the I do crew. Pay close attention to how vendors talk about their past wedding clients because if they are really passionate about being inclusive and open to same-sex weddings, they’ll be happy to shout about it.

If you’re looking for a cake designer you know you can trust, we recommend Buttercups for their stunning, creations that went down a storm on our wedding day!

Look At Their Past Work

Website and social media phrasing might not always be enough to spot if a vendor will work with same-sex couples. Look at their past work and their portfolio to see if they have worked with same-sex couples before. When they have a chance to work with models, do they always choose the same straight couple, or are they more inclusive? That Amazing Place is a perfect example of this in action.

Be Open With Vendors

Trying to conceal a same-sex wedding until the big day could potentially result in lots of extra stress, so it’s always best to be open. But calling a vendor and asking if they work with same-sex couples can be daunting. We get it. And the stakes are higher if you have your heart set on a particular venue, photographer or cake designer.

If they aren’t clear in their marketing if they are LGBTQ friendly, ask a friend to give them a call. Your friend will act as a buffer to protect your feelings and ensure you don’t have to add any more stress to your plate. Working with a wedding coordinator like Sparkling Soirees can also help you to avoid this stress.

Ask For Recommendations

Your friends may be able to point you in the direction of wedding vendors that will welcome you with open arms. You can also check wedding directories (like Infinite Wedding Co!) or head to social media to ask your friends and followers.

We recently got married and have an array of suppliers we can highly recommend. Visit here: and check out our blog, We Got Hitched! Our Candid Tale To Help You Avoid Pitfalls And Plan Your Very Own Dream Wedding, to read all about them.

Start Looking Early

The absolute key to securing the best suppliers to help you bring your dream wedding to life is to begin looking early. Check out blogs dedicated to same-sex marriage (such as ours) and you will be sure to see some name-dropping of suppliers that other couples have worked with before and can recommend.

Social Media

Take a look at vendors social media profiles i.e. their Facebook page or Instagram. Weddings are such a pictorial event, most suppliers have a strong presence on social media, which is fab news for couples who want to do some research before they reach out.

If you are still looking for a photographer, we highly recommend, Ross Willshire or Clare Kentish. Scroll through their pages, and images of the same-sex couples they have worked with before. You may just see a style you like, and think could work for you.

Small Touches

Lastly, keep an eye out for little nuggets and small touches like Mrs and Mrs signage, which Cloud Made Designs can create, or Mr and Mr cake toppers. You can then make a shortlist of suppliers who show they are willing to go above and beyond to source special elements for a same-sex wedding.

We hope this blog was helpful for you! For more advice and inspiration, to help make your wedding day a unique and memorable occasion, make sure you’re following the Infinite Wedding Co blog regularly. We share helpful insight and inspiration to help make planning your wedding a breeze.

Ping us an email here:, if you have any other questions, we’d love to help.

Debbie and Becca x

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