When it comes to weddings, there are a lot of traditions that couples can choose from. But for same-sex couples, some of those traditions may not be applicable, or they might feel incredibly outdated.
We're firm believers that couples should be able to ditch any tradition they don't like and reinvent any that need a little shake-up. Here are a few traditional wedding elements that you can ditch or reinvent if you're planning a same-sex wedding.
Gender shouldn't define your role in a wedding. This means you should focus on having the most important people by your side, not just those that fit the heteronormative wedding template.
You don't have to have bridesmaids, groomsmen, a best man and a maid of honour. You can call them your "I do crew" and do away with the rest of the labels. We're big fans of gender-neutral wedding terminology, anyway!
This is probably one of the most well-known wedding traditions. The bride is typically escorted by her father down the aisle to meet her groom at the altar. But for same-sex couples, this tradition doesn't really make sense. You can ditch it altogether or walk down the aisle together as a couple.
It's also common for couples to walk down the aisle separately, with someone special at each person's side. This doesn't have to be a parent; it could be a sibling or close friend. Just don't forget to decorate the aisle with florals from First Floral.
Another traditional element that doesn't really work for same-sex couples is giving away the bride. Many couples are ditching this tradition, not just same-sex couples. It's outdated and a little bit sexist, so you can either ditch this one or ask someone special to give you both away.
One tradition that many brides feel pressure to uphold is wearing a white dress. But there's no rule that says you have to wear white on your wedding day – or that anyone has to be wearing a dress.
Many couples opt to do away with the typical dress code in favour of expressing their personalities and being completely comfortable. Head to Amara Bridal if you're looking for your dream outfit that may or may not be a white gown.
If saying the standard vows doesn't appeal, there are plenty of other ceremonies you could adopt and adapt to your needs. Working with a celebrant like Amanda's Beautiful Ceremonies will help you to create a wedding ceremony that works for you.
The first dance is a tradition that many couples love, but it can also be really nerve-wracking. If you're not a big fan of being in the spotlight, you can ditch this one. Or, if you'd prefer, you could have your first dance after the official wedding party has had their turn on the dance floor. This way, you can still enjoy your first dance without all the pressure. Blue Ice Roadshow will fill the dancefloor so you don't feel the pressure of the spotlight!
These are just a few ideas of traditions that you can ditch or reinvent for your same-sex wedding. The important thing is to do what feels right for you and your partner.
Ready to start planning your LQBTQ+ friendly wedding? We’re here to help in any way we can. From connecting you with LQBTQ+ friendly suppliers that will support your dreams, to helping you to define your wedding aesthetic. Get in touch today to learn more.
Debbie and Becca x
